Over-thinking the hair situation – part one

Okay, I have a hair situation, and it’s twofold. I’ll divide it into two sections: Mine and Claire’s. I have a ton of work to do today, so my time is limited. I’ll write about mine first. Stay tuned for the over-thinking of Claire’s hair situation tomorrow.

I’m kinda frustrated with my hairstyle right now. My hubby rolls his eyes whenever I bring it up. He LOVES my hair long, and he just doesn’t understand why I can’t be happy with long hair. I don’t know either, and I wish I could figure it out.

Back in the day, I really wanted long hair and I grew it out. My college years were spent trying to grow out a really interesting perm, bangs, and short layers. I succeeded by the time I graduated. Then, I decided to grow it long. I was in the process of doing that when I had a little setback (see this list, #42.) Because of that situation, I got a cute little no-bangs bob, and I loved it!

That’s the style of hair I had when I met my hubby. He really likes long hair, and he convinced me to grow it out again, so I did. He loved it. Personally, it was okay, but I really enjoyed a short and sassy haircut. Years went by, and when I became an independent consultant for a cosmetic company (that shall remain nameless), I jumped on the really short and sassy haircut bandwagon, because I was in the public spotlight a lot, and I needed hair that was spunky and chic. My hubby was really nice and never really complained, but I could tell he really liked my hair long.

I shifted gears, got out of the public spotlight, and when I got pregnant with Claire, I decided to let my hair grow long again. With all the pregnancy hormones, my hair went into overdrive, and it grew super fast. My hair has always grown fast, but this was amazing. It got to be too difficult to maintain a short and spunky hairstyle without breaking the bank, so I went long again. My husband was quite pleased.

Fast forward two years. My hair is still long, and I see short and sassy hairstyles everywhere. The longing has started growing inside me again, and it’s going to drive me mad. Then, just when I think I have the courage to take control of my hair again and do the style *I* want, I have a really good hair day, and I think…wow, that was lucky! I almost cut all this off. Sadly, those hair days happen rarely.

Most of the time, I twist it up and wear a clippie. How exciting.

So, a couple weeks ago, I went to get my hair cut. I also got it highlighted, because the grays are starting to scare me. Thankfully, the highlights had grown out subtly, because I realized it had been seven months since my last haircut!! My hubby begged me not to get it all cut off, and I caved. I told him I’d have her do some face framing and maybe cut three inches off. Secretly, I was hoping she’d chop it all off, and I could blame her. My hubby would have seen right through that…what with my huge smile and the skip in my step.

So, she cut off just over three inches, and it’s still below my shoulders. She did some face-framing and long layers, and when she was done it looked great! She curled it for me and styled it, and I told her that I honestly wouldn’t have time to do that, so to give me a cut that would dry well.

I don’t know if it was her or me, but I’m just not happy. She’s cut my hair before, and the cut is different this time. I can’t put my finger on it, but it’s just not quite right. I’m afraid to tell my hubby, because he’ll just roll his eyes and tell me it looks great and to stop complaining.

I spent what I consider to be a lot on my haircut, so I can’t go back and have her re-do the cut. I just can’t justify the money in my head. I can’t go to a cheap place to have it cut, because those are always luck of the draw, and it’s a huge gamble. Plus, if I ever want my highlights updated, I’d have to explain to my stylist what happened. I wish I didn’t care what my hubby thinks, but in reality, I do. So, I’m stuck with this haircut for at least three months. Maybe around Christmas I can convince him that I need a change? Will he really understand that I need this, or will his pouting be unbearable and I’ll cave again?

I hope I can wait that long.

In the meantime, I feel like I’m stuck with this really expensive clippie.

Thoughts?