Strangled by the Tangled Web

I’m stuck in a Social Networking Catch-22 of sorts…

…with Facebook to be exact.

I love Facebook because it’s allowed me to keep in touch with everyone, but finding so many people on Facebook makes it hard to keep in touch with everyone.

When I had 20 friends, it took me hardly any time at all to peruse what they were doing and then comment.  I could stay on top of that with no problems.  When I started to reach 50, I got excited!  I’m touching base with so many people! Then, 100 rolled around.  It wasn’t long before I hit 200.  I was amazed at the power of Facebook and how many people could stay connected.

Currently, I have over 330 Facebook Friends…in just one of my accounts.

Yay!  Isn’t being connected the point?

But, how connected am I?

Actually, the more connected I become, the more disconnected I feel.

I love popping in to check on people, but the shear numbers of the task are overwhelming.  “Oh, boo hoo…you’ve connected with so many people,” you might be thinking.

Yes, there is a tiny violin playing just for me.  Don’t you hear it?  😉

Where will it stop?  I have no idea.  Will I stop adding friends to the list?  No!  Will I stop worrying about staying on top of everyone’s everything?  Probably.

And, if you’re one of those everyones whose everything got disregarded, I’m sorry.  I didn’t do it on purpose.  It would be so much easier for me to pay attention if I could get these cobwebs out of my hair.

Now, if I could just figure out this Twitter thing…  😉

5 Responses to “Strangled by the Tangled Web”


  • I am slowly learning to walk away form the computer even when facebook calls..it’s a process…

  • This is an excellent point. I wish I’d read this as I started on Twitter. At first I followed back everyone who followed me, just because it felt nice to be asked. I would read every tweet in my stream, even the ones that came in overnight — I couldn’t bear to miss anything.

    But the stream grew into a roiling river as I kept clicking “follow” and I lost the ability to really keep in touch with people I had real relationships with.

    I am now culling. And it feels not quite right, but necessary.

    Great post! Good luck with destrangling and detangling.

  • Yeah, I have stayed off facebook, frankly – I don’t have that many people I care to connect with. That said, this twitter stuff – I am not sure it is all it is “cracked up to be” – I kind of don’t get he point. I think I am happiest sitting in my little house on my little street all by myself.

  • It’s like the blog. I’m mostly in touch with the people who comment on my blog and I’m mostly in touch with the people on Facebook who post regular updates. Every once in a while when I have a few hours to kill I’ll go through the whole list at one place or another and say hello.What crazy problems we create for ourselves…

  • Princess Extraordinaire, I can usually walk away pretty easily; it’s just the sense of urgency to get caught up with everything that takes its toll sometimes.

    Lori, I’m still trying to follow along easily in Twitter since everything is written “backwards” (the last tweets at the top of the list).

    Terra, I actually love Facebook and because of it, I’ve connected with some really cool people that I’d lost touch with YEARS ago. I’m still trying to find my footing in Twitter.

    XUP, I think this definitely qualifies as “a first world problem.” 😉

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